The 5 Sliders of the Relationship Attachment Model

Have you heard of the 5 Sliders of the Relationship Attachment Model before? I hadn't until this past week in class. They are super cool! They are first knowing someone, then trusting someone, relying on someone, committing to someone, and finally touching someone. The main thing that I brought away from this was that you should know someone more than you trust them, trust them more than you rely on them, rely on someone more than you commit to them, and then commit to that person more than you touch them. This can be incredibly hard to do. When you become intimate with someone really quickly, you are increasing the touch slider but doesn't necessarily change the commitment, trust, reliance, or knowledge of that person. Be careful when you increase intimacy with someone. For example, when a couple cohabits and then decides to get married, they have a high level of touch (intimacy), but they do not have an increase or high level of commitment so they are not balanced well. That couple is likely to get divorced because they do not have that higher level of commitment that is needed with the high level of intimacy in the marriage.
Last thing, my teacher says often, "The best predictor of future behavior is past or current behavior." Genius food for thought!