Family Theories

In the family, there are four main theories that can be used to understand the family a little bit better. The first theory is call the Systems Theory. This views the family as a whole and that every single person in the family contributes some way to the family, combines, and forms the great, whole family. An example of this is to think of a cake. In order for the cake to turn out well, all the ingredients must be used. You cannot leave out the flour, or sugar, or baking soda. It will not come out as well if you do.

Another theory is called the Exchange Theory. The general idea of this theory is that you try to keep your costs lower than your rewards. So, for example, if you try to get to know and get along with someone that you need to talk to a lot for work purposes, but that person just ignores you or is very vague in answering, then you will probably end up ending the relationship because you feel like you are contributing more than you are receiving.

A third theory is called the Symbolic Interaction Theory. This theory based on the belief that we are molded into who we are because of our interactions and everything is symbolic. There is something that represents something else. Like, two children pretending to argue and their mother tells them to stop because she thinks they are really arguing and not pretending.

The last of the theories is the Conflict Theory. This theory involves power struggle, conflict, and inequality. In the book, Marriage and Family: The Quest For Intimacy, it gives this example: "Typically, men have brought more money than women have into the household, thereby establishing their power over women and having the final say in any decisions that matter to them."

These four theories abound in our families and in our societies. I am not saying any one of these theories is better than another, but that they are ever present in our lives, families, and communities. Which theory stands out to you? Do you recognize one theory that is more prevalent in your family, community, or society?