Sexual differences in men and women

I think it is very important that young adults know the differences in men and women and their states of arousal. I think the more adults that understand this, will better understand themselves and their spouse when they are married and engaged in sexual intimacy. The four phases are excitement, plateau, orgasm, and then refractory (for men). Some differences in these stages are that men get more excited quicker than women.

 During an orgasm, men build up fluid and then release it, which is not the same for women. In the Marriage and Family: The Quest for Intimacy book, it states: “The orgasm takes the least time of any of the stages. Usually it involves muscular contractions and intense physical feelings that occur in the matter of a few seconds and are followed by rapid relaxation. Again, there are physiological changes that occur in both men and women. Women have anywhere from 3 to 15 muscular contractions during orgasm. These contractions occur in various muscles through their bodies. They also have changes in their brain wave patters. Women my have multiple orgasms if they have continuing stimulation and interest. For men, orgasm occurs in two distinct phases. In the first phase, muscular contractions force semen through the penis. The man experiences a sense of having gotten tot eh point where he can no longer control himself; ejaculation is inevitable. In the second phase, additional muscular contractions lead to ejaculation.” As we can see from this, men and women react very differently during an orgasm.

Girls usually think about several things at once, while guys focus on one thing at a time. Women usually need to feel comfort and loved before they will have sex, while men will have sex in order to feel loved and comfort. In a scientific journal I read about this. In part of it, it said, “ A large body of scientific research documents four important gender differences in sexuality. …Women place greater emphasis on committed relationships as a context for sexuality.” Women need to feel secure and love before engaging in intercourse and men need to engage in intercourse to feel security and love.

Men’s anatomy is all outside while women’s anatomy is somewhat inside the body. So it is more obvious when guys are aroused than when women are aroused. In sexuality, men usually peak around the age of 18 while women usually peak around age 30. These differences are very important in understanding yourself and your spouse relating to intercourse.

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