Divorce occurs
to couples scattered almost everyone all over the world. It kind of seems like
a pandemic. Most people get remarried after only two years of being divorced.
70% of couples that got divorced believed they made a mistake in getting
divorced. A few implications of this are that they hunger for that intimacy
again, they want emotional support from their spouse, or maybe they had a hope
that they would have a better marriage next time.
In the 1970’s
the divorce rate peaked (many thought this was due to the no fault divorce law
that was passed in 1969). Another peak occurred before the 70’s. It occurred in
about the year 1947. Is there a correlation here, or is it just random? It
seems, at least to me, that the couples who got divorced in the 70’s were the
children of parents that got divorced in 1947. Why would this be? One reason
may be because the children were more vulnerable when their parents got
divorced to get divorced themselves. In a National Affairs publication it
stated: “From 1960 to 1980, the divorce rate more than doubled — from 9.2
divorces per 1,000 married women to 22.6 divorces per 1,000 married women. This
meant that while less than 20% of couples who married in 1950 ended up
divorced, about 50% of couples who married in 1970 did. And approximately half
of the children born to married parents in the 1970s saw their parents part,
compared to only about 11% of those born in the 1950s.” Maybe this is because:
-They didn’t
have a good example to follow about what to do in marriage,
-Maybe they are
afraid of marriage
- They are not
good at communicating or well in their problem-solving skills
- They are
afraid of continuing bad patterns in their own family
- Or are more
focused on their careers
Divorce is very
sad and does not always benefit the family in the long run. Divorce causes
heartache. In the words of Elder Dallin H. Oaks, “Divorce is not an all-purpose
solution, and it often create long-term heartache.”
Divorce is a hard
and sensitive subject. Couples need to be careful when they decide to get
divorced. I personally feel there are very VERY few situations in which couples should get divorced. But couples need to realize the many affects it can have on themselves and their
families.
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